Day 19: Who will be in the delivery room with you?
I really hope that the hospital would allow Eli to be there. But our OB said that it isn’t allowed. They did allow the husband of one patient though because they attended birthing classes and had certificates of completion.
Day 12: How did you tell your parents the news? The baby’s dad’s parents?
Eli was actually the one who told my mom the news when she got back from Boracay 2 or 3 days after we found out. I just told her that we have GOOD NEWS then we sat around the dining table after dinner then Eli started his heartwarming speech. He was shaking the whole time and looked like he was about to cry. Especially when my mom did! Tears went rolling down my cheeks as well after a while. She said we are already in the right age and just wish that Eli would be true to his word ‘til the end and that he’d better take good care of me. :)
I texted my dad right after and asked him to meet up with us for the good news. He went to the house that weekend and Eli gave his speech again. My dad just hugged me and can’t believe that he’s going to be a grandfather already. He told us his 3 guesses on the “good and important news”: 1) Me and Eli found a job abroad and would leave the country soon; 2) We’re getting married; and 3) I’m pregnant. Hahaha! Well, he got the 2nd and 3rd one right since we were really on the way to getting engaged last year (Eli said he was planning for my 25th birthday. I thought it was a joke! LOL).
We told Eli’s parents the news first though. It was the night when we had the check-up to confirm the pregnancy test result. We went home with them and waited ‘til after dinner. Eli talked to his parents at the dining table and invited me to sit down beside him. Though unexpected, it was a welcome news. They asked us what our plans were and wished for us to stay at the house with them and that we could have Eli’s older sister’s room since she’s living with her own family now.
Got to keep this in mind. Found in an article at babycenter. Check it out ;)
Here’s an A to Z of ideas to help you cope with pain and feel in control of your labour:
A: ask for information: the more you know, the more relaxed you’ll feel B:breathe rhythmically, and relax as you breathe out C: cuddle your partner or birth companion D: drink sips of isotonic drinks or water in between contractions E: eatcarbohydrate-rich foods little and often if you feel hungry F: fan yourself with a small electric fan G: groan and moan — making a noise is a great coping strategy! H: hold your partner’s hand I: imagineyour baby moving down through your pelvis with every contraction J: jokewith your partner and your midwife; keep things in perspective! K: kisses (from your partner, mom, sister, friend) L: listento music to help you relax M: move around to make yourself as comfortable as possible N: nestle down in a large pile of pillows or a huge bean bag O: openyour pelvis as wide as possible to help your baby be born: kneel on one leg with the other out to the side P: think positively: “Each contraction brings me closer to the birth of my baby” Q: questionwhat you don’t understand; being frightened will make the pain worse R: rock your pelvis round and round and back and forwards with each contraction S: sigh outgently with every breath T: trust your body: you can give birth! U: understand the treatment being offered; understanding what’s happening helps you feel more motivated V: visit the toiletregularly; a full bladder will slow your labour W: walk around to ease aches and pains and bring on contractions X: more kisses! Y: yell, loud and long, and then try to get back into a good breathing pattern Z: zzzzzzz: doze off in between contractions
YES! I just wrote it 2 days ago. I pretty much based it on amysbabybean's birth plan though. Detailed and easy to go over for the doctor. Here it goes:
I would like Eli (partner and dad) there at all times. Even in the delivery room but would respect hospital policy if not allowed.
Relaxation and breathing, gas and air, massage
I’m open to TENS machine. I read about this and it really sounds good in stimulating the nerves and distracting from contractions but if this isn’t available in the hospital, then it’s ok.
Ideally would like to avoid any medication but open to try if really worn out from pain.
Do not want epidural unless things become completely unbearable and if I’ve been struggling for more than 12 hours in the hospital already.
Intermittent monitoring unless otherwise needed.
As few as possible. Avoiding c-section unless completely necessary.
I would like things to run as naturally as possible so would like to avoid induction but am open to amniotomy if needed/active labor is stalled.
Augmentation of labor through natural techniques is highly preferred.
Would like freedom to move into comfortable position – like the idea of squatting, side-lying, leaning over, etc.
Delivery of Placenta
I would like a managed 3rd stage. If I would get an episiotomy, I would like anesthesia before it gets stitched up.
I would like Eli to have the opportunity to cut the umbilical cord.
I really want to breastfeed so skin-to-skin contact as soon as possible and would appreciate assistance in breast feeding if needed.
I do not wish for my baby to be formula fed.
Pain relief is very much welcome ONLY AFTER I’ve held my baby for the first time.
If possible, and if Eli wants to, I would like him to have the opportunity to hold the baby after I do (maybe even skin-to-skin as well).
I would like to room-in baby unless otherwise needed.
I know it wouldn’t always go to plan so I’m pretty much flexible about this. I just pray it would be close to what I’ve written here. Hehe! Well, it’s all up to God anyway. Everything according to Your will, Lord. :D
Day 5: What trimester are you in? How do you feel?
Already in my 3rd trimester! Excited much!!! Even when I’m feeling a lot heavier, so groggy and sleepy some days, feeling out of breath at times when she’s really stretching and moving in there, experiencing uneven hip pains and having some difficulty getting out of bed or changing positions. Haha! I become paranoid sometimes too when my back hurts but then I talk to her and tell her to just wait a few weeks more. Then we dance! Oh yeah! I also still walk a lot. It’s actually comforting when you’re sitting most of the day in front of the computer. :)
I just realized that I’m being a really OC mom-to-be right now as well—constantly going over the baby registry, sending invitations for the baby shower and updating the organizers (yes, I’m very lucky to have such wonderful girl friends), writing my birth plan, reading mommy blogs and baby articles (especially on labor and newborn care), planning the nursery/our room, and even listing things-to-do-while-the-baby-sleeps. Hahaha!
I’ve always had a regular period and was delayed one week when we decided to take the test. Eli bought one during lunch and it read positive. I didn’t know how that works really so I wanted to be sure and saved one stick for the next morning since the instructions said it was more effective that way. But Eli already told his close office mates and older sister about the good news when he returned to his work that day. Haha! I, on the other hand, was still in denial… even when the second test the next morning proved positive again, even when the doctor confirmed it that same morning as well, and even when we have told our family and closest friends already. LOL!
We just got back from our Mt. Daguldul climb then. I just recovered from fever and colds when we climbed the mountain, explored its waterfalls and swam in its beaches. I’ve also been drinking a lot that month so imagine my worry when I found out that two clear lines meant positive! I haven’t been very careful.
I only got to really believe that I’m pregnant when 4 weeks later, we had our first ultrasound and I saw her looking like a gummy bear! I was so amazed and just filled with awe seeing that little one and knowing that there really is a life growing inside me. :)